Having an understanding  just why your relationship ended is the very first thing I would recommend you work at before you even contemplating getting back together with ex.Lets face your split has happened for a reason.

Now you may think that you know what caused your split but l can guarantee you that you are not aware of  is the number one reason why relationship fail.These reasons are completely different for men and women and need to be handled differently if you are serious about getting back together with ex.

So lets have a look at the most common reasons given for a break up.Infidelity,lack of respect, loss of interest loss of love will all be high on the agenda here but when you analyse the core reason which is what this article is all about then you will discover that men will leave a relationship for different reasons to women.Infidelity loss of interest lack of love are all symptoms,what we want to get to understand is the cause.

The real reason men leave a relationship.

The core reason a man will leave a relationship will be because of a lack admiration from their partner.Think about this,men crave respect for who they are and admiration especially from the opposite sex.Now a man may well use the excuse of other reasons but if your man has wandered or is no longer interested in you it is because he is not getting the admiration he craves.If he has hooked up with someone else then you can bet he is getting the admiration from the new girl in his life.

The real reason women leave a relationship

The core reason women leave a relationship  is lack of appreciation.Appreciation for every thing they do not just the big things, looking after the kids or the house but also appreciation for the smaller things she does in the relationship.The time taken to listen to your problems or the love note in your sandwich box.

Now you may think this a rather simplistic approach to what we could be made in to very complex physiological process but again if you think about it a a core level then if your man is not feeling admired then he will crave it from somewhere else.If your girl is not feeling appreciated then she will be open to appreciation from some one else.