I was the perfect relationship. Not like many others. See we had something special, we didn’t say "i love you" much often or at least i didn’t. We were going for the 4 month and then came summer vacation. She went to another city for two weeks. I stayed at my home city. The first couple of days separate were going well. At they 12 maybe 13 we stopped and started fighting over the phone. Then i went on a road trip when i got back we broke up over the internet. I broke up with her. She stopped answering and 2 months i called i think every day. She answered and told me it’s over i don’t care stuff like that. When we saw each other in school . She didn’t want to see me. I started to talk to her being next to her. I make her laugh every 10 sec. We are great together. We can talk about anything you know : ). But every time getting back together comes up. She says No Not going to happen. But i don’t give up. There is a saying " You have to lose something in order to appreciate it". That’s my case. So what do you think: Should I give Up or should i continue trying. ?

P.S. Before i broke up with her she gave me her heart and was able to do anything to be with me.

Hello

Winning back an ex is a very difficult thing to do. It is a lot easier to generate feelings in someone, than it is to change their feelings. But if you take the right steps, and more importantly don’t do the wrong things, your chances to win her back increase dramatically.

Here are helpful steps that helped me to get my ex girlfriend back:

Don’t Ask Her To Get Back Together

You should never ask your ex girlfriend to get back together. Why? Simple, because her answer will be NO!

You’re only shot at getting your ex girlfriend back is to follow the right steps that will make her ask you to get back together. Maybe if you broke up with her, then you might be able to be the one who brings up the subject of getting back together. But if you can do it without, it would be much better.

But how do you get someone back without seeming desperate? In order to get your ex girlfriend attention, you have to show value without telegraphing your interest in her, while at the same time initiating interaction.

So don’t ignore someone’s texts and calls when they break up with you. It screams that you are so devastated by the breakup that you can’t even handle talking to her. You want to respond to her, but do it in the right way. You can even initiate communication if you do it in the right way.
You have to maintain a strong frame of confidence, and show her that your happiness isn’t dependent on being with her.

Being Jealous Is Not The Way To Go

You must understand that …SHE IS GONNA DATE SOMEONE ELSE. Let that sink in good. And not only is she gonna date someone else, it can be someone you know, maybe even one of your friends. Tough to swallow I know. It’s ok if it bothers you, but don’t let it show and don’t call her out on it. Remember, you are not together anymore, and you don’t have any right to tell her what to do.
If you do want to win her back, then you just have to weigh the decision.

Be Flexible

Do not be that stereotypical angry ex. Do not throw out their stuff or demand for them to come pick up their stuff right now. It’s better to be flexible, easy-going and understanding. A person who takes things easily is an attractive quality in itself. It may inspire your ex girlfriend to start communicating with you again faster then you might think.

These tips were helpful for me to get my ex girlfriend back. Anyhow, if you really want to get her back I will recommend to get good guide on how to get your ex back. There are many guides out there but most of them are crap (I tried too many of them…).

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I hope that these tips will be helpful for you.
Good luck!

I really want her back and she always talks to me.Shes been pretty ill lately and I think the stress of everything was too much for her and she needed a break.Shes starting to get back on her feel though,so if I wait it out do you think there’s still a chance to get back with her?

 Even if you think you know what makes your girlfriend tick, you may be surprised at some of the things you’ve been overlooking.

Express your love!

I know what you’re thinking: “But I do show my love! I bought her a…” Stop right there. Unfortunately, material gifts and even the amount of time and energy you spend helping go right over some women’s heads. Many women don’t truly feel loved unless they hear the “I love you” fairly frequently.

No, your girlfriend hasn’t forgotten all the nice things you’ve done; she just thinks maybe your feelings have changed since then. Yeah, that’s right: since yesterday. See, the thing is women continually re-assess their relationships. Men tend to get comfortable and assume if there are no fights, then everything’s dandy. That’s exactly how so many guys get blindsided by break ups introduced with “Honey, we need to talk.”

So go ahead and tell her in so many words that you love her. If you have a hard time saying it, write a little note and slip it in her wallet or stick it on the bathroom mirror.  If that’s still a little to awkward for you, make a point of thanking her for something routine like making dinner or acknowledging something she’s done well.

Listen!

Imagine starting an important conversation with your girlfriend or wife only to notice her staring into space as you talk. Wouldn’t you feel a little rejected? This is the same situation a lot of women face with their boyfriends or husbands, who often don’t even notice they’re spacing out. When you’re girlfriend talks, try to put aside what your doing and really listen.

That doesn’t mean you aren’t allowed to have some quiet time to yourself, though. Whether you’re trying to finish a report for work the next day or just want to watch the game, if you gently explain that you’d rather have the chat at a later time, a real lady will give you your space.

Use honesty wisely!

As much as we may want to believe honesty is the best policy, anyone with a little life experience will tell you it isn’t always. While outright lies are a no-no, a little tact and diplomacy can go a long way towards keeping peace in the house.

What that means is the correct answer to “Do I look fat in this?” is not “No, you look 10 pounds lighter,” but something like “Can’t say. You look good to me no matter what you wear.” Sound corny? Try it sometime and I bet you’ll like the result.

Being tactful doesn’t mean you should keep quite about things that really bother you, though. It’s better to bring problems to light in than let your resentment simmer and risk blowing up at her one day.

When both partners are willing have a little patience and keep an open mind, love relationships don’t have to been filled with frustration and drama. Get some good relationship advice for men, from the right source and your relationships should be smooth sailing from here on out.

My wife and I have been seperated for about 2 1/2 months now. I left because we lived with her mother and it was a constant battle and her mother was the head of the household and her not me. Anyway after I left (only about 36 hours later) I came back only to be told she wants to be apart and she is living with her mom and my kids and I am in my own apartment. I have left notes, sent flowers, sent text messages, left little gifts all to try to say sorry and it is not her and I still love her but I get nothing back, not even a thank you for the stuff I left for her. I still love her with all my heart but the hanging on kills me.

The only thing I can suggest to u is, give yourself a time limit, as far as how long u are going to wait and stick with it. Then, move on. It sounds like she wants to be with her mom instead of u and it suits her fine. If she doesn’t want to come back to u, there’s nothing u can do.

I’ve been praying for a long time for God to heal something that hurt sooooo deeply. The person I was closest to and loved as a real mother or sister just dropped me so coldly and sometimes it still hurts like crazy. Why won’t he just heal it and make me not care anymore?

Part of the healing process involves patience, we learn from patience and with it comes good things

Psalm 147:3 – He healeth the broken in heart, and bindeth up their wounds.

I dated my ex for about 7 months. We had a good relationship, he seemed to be really in love with me and I loved him as well. However, he had a lot of insecurities during our relationship that made it difficult for both of us. Even though he had problems, I wanted to work through it. However, he ended up breaking it off with me anyways. I really wasn’t even sure why we broke up and I still had a feeling in my heart that he loved me. However, I found out that a mere two weeks after we broke up, he already had a new girlfriend.

I’m really confused. I can’t tell if he’s completely moved on (which is fine) or if he’s in a rebound relationship. Even on the day of our break up, he told me he loved me. We haven’t talked in 3 weeks. I don’t want to be with him anymore, but how should one deal with this situation specifically in terms of healing? Any advice is appreciated.

A supportive hug to you, doll.
I’ve been where you’re at now: seen a gf go from "I love you" to showing off her new bf in under 24 hours!

Best thing for you is to get some distance & time from him.
That’s the worse thing: that it’ll take time to get over him. The other girl may be a rebound for him but that shouldn’t matter. What should matter is you! Get your support system of friends & take it day by day (or hour to hour if need be). Eventually (and its different for everyone and for every relationship) you’ll feel the pain get less & less. Just be careful you don’t rebound as a good friend of mine did.

She got the heave ho and was heartbreakingly sad for 2+ weeks. Then she started going out again & being social. Then she met a guy. And they went out. Next thing I know they’re meeting each other’s families and she’ll waver from ‘oh its just a fling’ to off-handly looking at Modern Bride magazine!

Good luck!

people can change right?
i mean if they didn’t like you they why would they even bother coming back to you?
i really want things to work out between me and my ex and we are both working at it.
this time i can tell.
it makes me really happy and i’m just not ready to get crushed again.
so call me naive, ridiculous, any of these……
i’m just so happy we both are actually trying to fix things and get around why we broke up.
why do people think getting back together with your ex will create a mess?
i don’t understand because it is their choice to come back and fix things.
they aren’t being forced to………..right?

Don’t worry about what others say. It takes courage to get back together and try to work things out. If people really love each other, they will adjust to that person, i.e. change. Get back together and do what you want to do. If it doesn’t work out, then you move on and you taught yourself a lesson. Everyone needs to make their own life choices to understand them, so go on and make yours. You know what’s best for you and what feels right. It’s not like, if things go wrong, you can’t break up again. You could always do that!

I have recently been promoted and set a task of getting 12 long term unemployed and ex offenders in to work in the Manchester area but i am struggling to find funding to support this? any ideas?

Not an easy task, and I wish you well with it. Apart from speaking with the Jobcentre, there are a couple of things that you may wish to look into.

The first is funderfinder – a small charity that helps people to find funds for charitable purposes. Some of its output is free, other parts incur a small charge. See first link below.

As you are looking to assist ex-offenders, it may also be worth contacting Nacro, who do some work in that field. See second link below.

Suicide?

A little over a week ago my ex-boyfriend broke up with me. He never told me why he wanted to, he just broke up with me. Hes trying to talk to me again, but i dont know what to say to him. I really liked him and he liked me too. im so confused about it.

He is mucking you about. You don’t have to talk to him at all. In fact, it’s his loss. Move on.

so i was with this guy for 2 months,
but now he broke up with me and im hurt sooooo bad!
he broke up with me cause he moveing like 2 hours away
and he cant deal withlong distance relationships
i wanna stay with him so bad! but idk if i should try to get him back
he didnt seem upset about breaking up with me
yet he was always saying he loves me!
hes VERY stressed lately.
do u think that could be one of the reason he broke up with me?
hes comming to say goodbye monday((he moves tuesday))
and he said to call him sometime this week
should i call him today or give him some time?
how can i get him back?!
and if i dont get him back any advice on healing a broken haart?
*sorry my spelling sucks! i was tryin to write this really fast!*

I know what you are feeling.the reason he told you is not the truth at all why he broke up with you.2 HOURS is not true long distance.You need to ask him to tell you the truth.why did he broke up with you.then decide if you believe him or not.It will take you a while to get over him.But you will find someone better then him.take sometime for yourself to figure out what you want and need.just give yourself some tie and then you will get better.