Hello.

I need some help. I was with my ex for a few years. We had a long distance relationship and we sort of drifted apart. I still care for him and we’re talking about meeting up again for the first time since our last meeting which was eight months ago.

Trouble is, he doesn’t treat me at all kind or show me any care or affection. You may ask why I continue to hang on, it’s because I still remember the good times and he used to love me a lot. I cancelled seeing him a couple times during the last few months we were a couple because we were fighting a lot and he was being rude to me.

Basically it was like chicken and egg, his disappointment led to him being mean and angry. His being mean and angry led to our not getting along.

We even have had intimacy through webcam and phone but even with both of those he still isn’t nice.

He basically just expects me to go visit him and we’ll ‘take it in baby steps’ but I don’t feel motivated to see him unless he shows me some true care or concern.

It’s going around and around. I want to forget him sometimes because he treats me like noone special at all and doesn’t even ask how I’m doing.

What should I do? Thanks.
He actually told me "You have to work on me caring for you again".

Is this something that is to be expected from someone who feels angry that I cancelled a couple of our last planned meetings??

You have to work on me caring for you again <<< he’s simply telling u that he doesnt care about u and that ur expendable.its either his way, or the high way.take the high way.it’d be better then anything he’s offering, which by the sound of it, isnt anything at all worth your time.

I want my ex back, but he thinks its a bad idea. How could I change his mind?

Winning back an ex is a very difficult thing to do. It is a lot easier to generate feelings in someone, than it is to change their feelings. But if you take the right steps, and more importantly don’t do the wrong things, your chances increase dramatically.

if you desire to get your ex back then these 3 simple steps should help achieve your goal:

1.The first tip is to get your head straight. You need to remove your negative thoughts. You have to stop feeling sorry for yourself. You have to be willing to be strong.

Don’t let your emotion and of course your depression keep you down. You can’t achieve a goal, if you can’t keep your emotions in check and your mind clear. Bad thoughts are destructive behavior and you don’t want them..

2.Don’t pester your ex boyfriend. Men just don’t like it when girls become obsessive about them. Especially ex boyfriends. You may want to feel better by hearing his voice or seeing his face, but if you really want him back, you must back off for a while. Don’t continuously sms him, email him, or go to his place or where he hangs out just to see him. It’s better to give him time to realize he may have made a mistake. He may begin to actually miss you and want to get back with you. If you blow it, you may have a tougher time getting your lovely ex back.

3.Become an object of desire. If you can, get some new makeup. more recommended things to get are new clothes and new hairstyle. If you’ve picked up a few pounds, start exercising and try to eat healthy foods. When on the outside, you’re going to start feeling better about yourself on the inside. If you will feel good on the inside you will be confident and happy. When you’re confident and happy, others will easily see it. You will become an object of desire to men, this includes your ex boyfriend.

These tips were helpful for me to get my ex boyfriend back. Anyhow, if you really want to get him back I will recommend to get good guide on how to get your ex back. There are many guides out there but most of them are crap (I tried too many of them…).

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I hope that these tips will be helpful for you.
Good luck!

Keeping in mind that this woman cheated on him several times prior to and after receiving his kidney and now refuses to let him see his 3 kids. Also it may be important to note that she received 2 kidneys prior to his that failed and would’ve been on a waiting list behind 6000+ for another. He seemed like a bad guy till I really read why he’s doing it but what do you think?

I think he’s a little bitter. I’m not sure if getting that kidney back or getting a settlement is going solve much of anything for him. I think it has nothing to do with the kids actually. If he cared about them, I think he would go about things in a different way.

edit: I understand the guy is upset and all, but he’s a surgeon whose job is to preserve life. Just asking for his kidney back, I think, violates his oath as a doc because obviously her giving the kidney back would mean that she would have to ge tback on the donor list where her chances of getting another one are very low. Howevever, if he ever needs a kidney, he is going to be at the top of the list because of his job.

He says it’s not about the money or the kidney. He wants to see his kids, but the kids can see what he is doing. He’s just trying to humiliate their mother. They’re never going to want to see him after this.

you can tell an ex still has feelings for you but b/c you never gave them space, they only ran away from you and acted out against you. Could space and time help heal this whole situation and cool down the anger after a breakup?

Yes; as a matter of fact its very well possibly the only way to acheive that.

I am in an odd relationship. I cannot deal with it. But I love my husband and he loves me. We cannot be apart for more than 3 hours. Basically, the situation is if he stays with me, he loses his kids. We have been arguing for weeks and weeks, but neither one of us can leave. Can this be fixed? How can true, honest, soulmates ever really leave eachother. Is it possible to give your heart to someone and they hold it forever, unwilling, unable to give it back.
Kids are 7 and 9. They live in another country with their mother, she could refuse to send them for summer visit. He hasn’t seen kids in 6 years because of this. They are coming in June this year though

It’s all about priorities. His and yours. You need to figure out a way to stay in a relationship with him while he has one with his kids. If this is a dead end situation, sooner or later something will happen anyway, so make sure you are prepared for any turn of the road, as in, plan for the worst, hope for the best. Good Luck.

I’m in-sane-ly in love with Julia Roberts (what’s not to love?). I love her. I go nuts when I see her in a magazine, on film, or on a poster. How do I fall out of love with her, so I can focus on getting back together with my ex-wife?

get a picture of julia roberts and glue it to your ex-wifes face.

Please no negativity, i’m gonna write my ex a letter to try and persuade her. Any ideas how to make it the perfect letter, and for her to at least talk about giving us another chance? I have tried other routes and they have failed. so this is my last chance, i shall move on after this. Any tips or optimistically, anyone succesfully got an ex back with a letter before lol? i know i’m hopeful, but one can but try!

Ok hmmm let’s have a think about this, u havnt put why she’s an ex but if i was a girl and my ex boyfriend wrote me a letter to get me back i think these are a few of the things i’d want to read/see

put a little something special in the envolope, maybe a cute tissue with a heart on it that you’ve drawn with a marker, or a flower u picked that wont die in the post!

U could put her favourite colour pencil in with the envolope, use sissors to scratch some of the colouring off so it’s just the wood & write something like i love you on it.. or .. no wait!! Write "i’m sorry" on it! That would be lovely..

Spray a tiny bit of her fave aftershave that u used to wear, so she’s reminded of how cosey it was when u both snuggled together & she could smell u.. mmm

Write on plain paper, it’s kinda cute to see u write a bit skwiggly & not so on the lines!

Tell her how much u appreciate her, everything about her.. Her looks, her body her touch her smell.. Tell her that she’s ur favourite & always will be..

(u havnt put how long u was together for so i might be going a bit over the top)

Tell her u want to give her the world.. & that she’s ur world. & she’s the only girl thats ever made ur heart beat so fast ( again.. i have no idea what the cheese is like between u both, but i’d love to hear all this stuff)

Tell her u miss her beautiful hair & her laugh.. Say.. I miss the way u laugh when i — then say something u used to do alot & she laughed about*

Talk about the cuddles the days out, all the things u want to do with her!! Ahhh just say it alll!!! Be sweet. & gently.. Try & make her cry a little .. Weeken her with a few questions..

Maybe if u don’t want to be so full on.. Say things like.. I just want to see u for a chat,, It’s harmless. So what do u think?

Questions like that which sound too tempting to recist!!

Tell her that she’s the only one that can take the pain away…

This may help, depending on what ur relationship was like! If it was a week thing then forget all of this lol.

But good luck If she doesnt reply then she’s not worth it xxxxx

I have acted desperately and need something to coach me from the angle of being a strong man. Any good books or Web sites. I have found some save you marriage books but am a little leary of spending $50 for something that maybe worthless. Let me know what you’ve read or any advice?

The real and honest truth, nothing will work if she doesn’t want to be won over. My ex used many of those books and all failed. I wouldn’t have gone back to him for any reason.

If she doesn’t want you back, nothing will convince her otherwise. But i think you already know that. You can try to pretend you change, but eventually your true self will come back out again and she’ll leave again. You are only postponing the inevitable.

Is time the answer to everything? Will it heal a broken heart that you gave away to your true love and now your sick because you broke

I promise it will get better. Just give it time.

Better a broken heart than one that never loved. This is life, there’s no short cuts, but believe me, a broken heart is the best teacher ever, and after all, opportunities and greater loves will come soon. A second love is much more complete and deepest. Just wait a bit and see. Our heart is so big that we have the wisdom to love as many times as we need. We’re not born to love one or die, this is fantasy. Love comes and goes as sea waves. Some are forever, others not, no problems, the secret is keep moving and living as happy as we can. If things are not working properly, just act……NEXT.
Good luck