If you have broken up with the love of your life and he is in a rebound relationship, how do you go about getting back together?

A rebound relationship is one where he is dating someone else to get over you.  Rebound relationships keep people from having to deal with the emotions of breaking up.  They’re used to help people move on from a real love.

And that’s the key to getting back together. He’s in a rebound relationship to deal with losing you.

It does not matter why he lost you.  It doesn’t matter if it is your fault or his.  It doesn’t even matter who actually called the relationship off.  What matters is that you have a real love.

Because virtually all relationships founded on real love can be saved.

If he’s in a rebound relationship, he will be focusing on what is wrong with your relationship.  If you were a good girl he’ll probably be hanging out with a bad girl  If you were into philosophy, he’ll be watching Monday Night Football.  Or, vice versa.

The fact that he is actually focusing on the differences in your styles is actually good for you for two reasons.  his attention is still focused on you even when he’s with the new girl.  And, it gives you a chance to see what he’s looking for.

If he’s with someone as different from you as possible, it means that he was missing something in your relationship.  You can use the time he’s with rebound girl to improve yourself.

Let the rebound relationship run its course.  Because, as he spends time with the new girl, he’ll start to see the flaws in her.  After a month or so with rebound girl, you’ll start to look pretty good.

That’s why you don’t want to crawl back to him right away.  Let him develop the idea that he misses the good things in the relationship.  When he’s ready to make a move, be magnanimous.  Welcome him back graciously.  Be a new and improved girlfriend, but don’t do the chasing.

Here are some specific steps to take when your ex is in a rebound relationship:

Don’t try to convince him that you are the love of his life.  Let him discover this on his own.

Don’t apologize profusely.  If you did something wrong, you can say you’re sorry.  Once.  But move on. He knows the real reason he loves you.

Don’t make promises to change.  You are who you are and that’s who he fell in love with.

Don’t try to make him see that it wasn’t your fault. He will come to appreciate that over time, but only if you haven’t made him invest energy in defending his position that it was  your fault.

Never, ever beg him to take you back.

When you ex starts going out with someone just after you break up, he’s in a rebound relationship.  You can make up with him and getting back together is possible.  Don’t despair.  The rebound relationship is a sign that he’s still in love with you.

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