When your boyfriend has decided to finish the relationship, it’s easy to go into panic mode and do things you know you shouldn’t but cannot help but turn to. Fighting your initial impulses is not straightforward, however if you permit yourself to carry out the wrong actions, it can really hurt your chances of getting back together.

One amongst a lot of harmful activities following a breakup is for you to seek constant contact no matter  what the feedback you receive. For many individuals, this comes out as a panic response to the fear that they’re going to lose their ex lover forever and in their mind it’s the sole means they can think of to latch onto their ex and keep themselves on his mind.

Text messaging has become an integral form of communication, typically replacing over the phone conversations. The problem with text message terrorism as it has become known as , is that you’re in emotional distress and are very likely possible to say some thing  you will  later regret.

Constant texting or text message terrorism refers to the onslaught of constant phone calls, emails, and you guessed it, text messages.

You have this craving, an urgency to reach out  just after your split. You are wanting an acknowledgment from your ex, even if that acknowledgment seems to be negative. You want to grasp on to the idea that he hasn’t forgotten you. It is an incredibly tough impulse to resist, but to accomplish your ultimate goal of getting back together you should  control your need and desire to establish contact, particularly through text messaging.

Not only does this violate a sacred rule set down for everybody in an immediate post-breakup situation, it puts you into a seriously unhealthy position in your ex’s eyes. To be blunt, it causes you to look clingy, desperate, and even a  little unstable. Taken to extreme it can even be considered harassment by your ex!

Just think about what  image are you portraying if you send text messages every twenty minutes? You will come over to your ex as being  needy,desperate,high maintenance. Do you really think  that those traits will help your cause? Definitely not. It will only create extra barriers and push your ex further away. In order to stand the very best chance of  getting back together you need to re-establish your worth and value within the eyes of your ex. You need to make your ex want you back.

So put the phone down, stop  that text messaging terrorism